D I.Y Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition
“You’ll be surprised by how much this tiny, unobtrusive thing can do,” Weiss says of longtime fan-favorite, the Crave Vesper. The fact that it doubles as sleek, chic, eye-catching jewelry is the cherry on top of the sundae. Check that you’re happy with the size – it may be bigger or smaller than you thought. If there’s a vibe gathering dust underneath your bed right now (no judgement), adding an attachment can make a huge difference. The original Magic Wand is corded, so it will never die on you in the middle of a session (so not cool). But if you don’t have an outlet nearby, you may want to try the brand’s rechargeable model instead.
Please note that if you purchase something by clicking on a link within this story, we may receive a small commission of the sale. Jewelry is a fun way to express yourself and decorate your body, and it can make people feel more attractive and confident. Both products are the same size, shape, and weight, meaning the second generation is just as elegant as the original. Your color options are monochrome black, rose gold, and the same 24-karat gold plating option as its predecessor. One new thing is the Vesper 2 is fully submersible , and that’s great news for those of us who constantly forget to remove their jewelry before getting into the shower.
The nozzle’s opening is larger, with a thinner, softer rim, and it creates a sensation that is more gentle and diffuse in comparison with other suction vibrators viberators, which can feel uncomfortably intense at times. Two primary factors may impact sex-toy selection for trans, nonbinary, and other gender-diverse people. The first is the use of hormones or gender-affirming surgeries that may impact genital function in a variety of ways. The second is the psychological component of genital dysphoria experienced by some trans and nonbinary people. Trans women may feel more comfortable using vibrators rather than toys marketed as “male strokers,” as it is more gender-affirming. Conversely, some of our transmasculine sources expressed a preference for air-suction or mini stroker toys that can be penetrated over traditional clitoral vibrators.
Dr. Jessica Shepherd, an OB-GYN, says vibrators are not harmful to the genital area if used correctly. However, she notes that if they’re used too aggressively or shared between folks without proper cleaning, there is potential for doing harm. It was loud—a lot louder than I remembered it being when I used it alone. Once we actually started getting into it, with the vibrator squished between us, you couldn’t hear it quite as much. Now that I wasn’t so distracted by all that buzzing, I turned my attention to, ya know, orgasming.
Or, you can angle the arms to provide more pinpointed stimulation wherever you want it. One SELF editor called the compact Maude Vibe the “sex toy I didn’t know I needed.” Its slim, elongated body lets you use it like an extension of your finger, with a tapered tip that targets the clit. This simple, whisper-quiet vibe has three intensities that ramp up from fluttery to “eye-poppingly powerful,” she says. That original vibe had a long body that could enter the vagina, with rabbit “ears” that stimulated the clit. Some rabbit vibes today have preserved this signature style—because if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. Others have replaced the “ears” with shorter arms that curve towards the clit or suction mechanisms.